How is it February? The 2nd month of the year; it means we only have 4 months until the big day. And dear Lord there is so much to organise!
I'm going to tell you guys something but you have to promise me that you won't panic and you'll share the 'it'll happen when it happens' mentality I'm going with - I still don't have a dress.
I know the style that I want but I have yet to find it. Dates are in the diary for dress shopping so wish me luck. How close to the actual day did you find your dress? And the dress is just the start. There is so much and I have lists coming out of my ears. Flowers, cake, decorations.
And then the planning of the day. How do you get the timings right? Just how? Thank God we're going for a laid back feel because wedding planning could make you go insane! Did anyone get to the place where they wished they could just slip away and go do it in secret? I joke, of course, but I won't lie when I say I have some not so secret envy for people who do choose to do that,
I've got 4 months left and about 4000 things to do. I'm pretty sure gin is going to help me through my final months of being a Miss but any additional help is most welcome!
As far as January's go it wasn't a bad one. A received some disappointing news but we're ignoring it and adding it to the end of a bad 2016.
January was all about planning and getting things in the diary. I realised that I need to crack on with the wedding planning; start confirming, paying and posting things. It's going to be here before we know it and we have to be somewhat prepared for it.
It was a new month and a new year and January really has meant a new start this time around. Time to try and not get so irritated about the little things, to relax and to do more. To stop waiting- there's always an excuse not to do something but I'm changing that and actually getting up and going to do! And now for some favourites for January:
:: SUNDAYS ::
I had some really lovely Sundays in January. Dog walks, afternoons in the pub, and plenty of Sunday lunches. Everything that a Sunday should be. Every Sunday should be busy but relaxed. I love spending it close to home and nearly always with evenings in pjs. According to A, I do Sundays well and I'm alright with that.
:: LISTS ::
More specifically the 2017 list! A's job offer fell through last minute (why do companies do that?!) but instead of sitting around and feeling sorry we've taken a different route. A why wait route? Why were we waiting for his new job to start to go and do things. Sure, his evenings would have been free but it's not like he never gets time off.
So we've sat down and made a list of everything we want to do this year; from the small to the big. It might be framing that one picture we still haven't done, to moving house; it's all on the list and I'm excited to see how many we tick off.
:: COLOURING ::
I know this has been on a list before but A got me a new colouring book for Christmas and I went off and got myself some fine felt tip pens. I've loved sitting there in the evenings with a cup of tea, Grey's Anatomy on in the background, the dog asleep beside me and colouring in. It's so therapeutic and really helps my brain switch off at the end of each day.
:: LA LA LAND ::
No one should miss out on this movie. I've watched it twice (so far) at the cinema and it gets better each time. I won't write too much in case you haven't seen it. For me, I'm in full love affair mode with every aspect of this film. I grin, I cry and every time it ends I want to give a standing ovation and immediately watch it again.
:: THE FIRST HOLIDAY OF 2017 ::
On the list, we've put down some holiday ideas and we booked our first one around my birthday. At the beginning of March we are going to Venice. I cannot wait; Italy has been on our list for ages and I know Venice in particular for A has been a bucket list destination. How wise it is to go to Italy for 4 days before our wedding I'm not sure. The dress might have to be very loose fitting to hide the amount of pasta I intend to eat while there!
People always choose this time of year to make resolutions. Some big, some small, promises to keep them, some will, some won't. I usually start with good intentions and then fail. Perhaps something came up or got in the way; maybe I just didn't have the heart for it in the first place. Whatever the reason it means for the last few years I've had no new year's resolutions.
2016 was a tricky and tough year throughout and it's honestly taken it's toll but it's also taught me some life lessons; important things I want to take with me into 2017 and beyond. Not quite resolutions but a new mentality and outlook on life. Life is short; it shouldn't be as complicated as we all make it but we do and we have to change and adapt to organise our lives- messes and all!
This 2017 I'm focusing on the good. Our wedding is coming up and we have to finish so much more of the planning; first up actually confirming details with the registry office and getting the invitations sorted.
Hopefully this year will include more travel. I want to explore the UK as well as further afield. I'm lucky enough that I have family who have moved/are moving to these far flung places and it would be rude not to go and visit them.
The end of 2016 saw my work load start to build so I'm hoping I can push and grow it more and more. A got hit with another curve ball the first week of 2017 but we've taken in our stride; although something we wouldn't have done 6 months ago.
As well as actually dates in the diary and things to look forward to I'm also going to change my approach to life:
- Pay it forward
- Let it go
- Be content
Let me get the sharpie out while I tattoo these to my arm. This is the year to focus on these 3 things. Kindness to others; remembering to take care of yourself and, that you cannot please everyone and not everyone can please you. It sounds so simple when you write it down but this is the year to act on it and not to let so many things interfere and bother me.
It's time to accept and embrace what is and to stop waiting for life to start. I'm so good at saying things like 'oh when I have a bit more money,' 'we'll do it when we both have the weekends free' etc. But why? If you continue with that mentality you'll be stuck waiting until forever! A and I have written a combined list for this year. It has things we want to achieve on it- big and small. Cinema trips, holidays, wedding, friends round for dinner etc. Time to stop pausing and get doing!
Well hello 2017, you came around fast didn't you?! I try not to have the post Christmas blues but they usually hit me pretty hard. I love December so much, January is always a little duller even if it is my birthday month.